60 year Project called "Life"

Project Definition : Defining the timelines

Statistics show Average age a human being lives is around 60 yrs.We Indians are known for vivid cultures and religious nature. And as per Indian religion, our souls get a Human Birth after 86 lakh births, which we live as plants and then as animals. This makes a human birth all the more worth while and precious.

(Even though the religion might be wrong but the intent is to guide , making them realise the value of their birth wid a sensible decisive brain)

Project Definition : Planning the deliverables at each phase

Now, when we say Human Life is so important, it becomes all the more important to plan it and live it in a way worth an experience like we try to impress our clients with an impressive approach (Client being God in this case, so he is satisfied with a Wow-effect on the opportunity he gave us).

By 25 years

Planning for a life-project starts with Parents who decide a childs' career and make him understand core values of love, commitment, dedication. So our first 25 years i attribute to the parents who support us and make us a good decision-making human being. Post 25, every individual after completing his/her studies (the Gurukul knowledge), gears up for facing the world and at this stage decides, what other dreams he/she has. This is the point when parents allow the kids to use the knowledge they imparted into practical life and from here the individual starts to lay down grounds of dreams balanced to goals of survival.

By this age, Individual steps out of the Parent's protective shell . During this course, individual makes his own social circle both office and personally and many a times he faces variation in opinions from that of parents. I suppose this is attributed to the age gap and the generation gap between the times our parents lived and present time an individual lives. Lot many dilemmas, pursue your dreams or parents, then also not to forget 'life is precious' .

I feel from my experience at this stage parents should also understand criticality of individuals' dreams and not get swayed in factors like 'religion' (wherein all religions impart knowledge of honesty, love , commitment to your goals) , Society (which only salutes the person who understands the meaning of standing against all odds for goals and values love of his life and commitment to all personas of life) . Again, i say Parents are the backbone of any family and if an individual learns to face the world its parents who provide the emotional guidance system . But post 25, parents should allow the kid to pursue the dreams he/she has with faith in them.

And of course understand "if an individual is happy pursuing his/her dreams, only then he will spread happiness else he/she lands up compromising in precious life and lands up becoming a figure of frustration than love" , which is again against what our religions teach us.

(Even Indian Government realises , an individual is matured enough to take decisions and imparts liberty to vote by this stage)

Between 25-30

Now Between 25-30 , a person lays grounds for his/her dreams and prepares an execution roadmap for future. Looking at the present generation, people pursue management programs/ higher degrees and decide upon their love with whom they wana see the old age . Again, varying from western culture, we rely on our parents to be the final decision making authority. But these days, the process has seen a shift .

Our parents never had the funda of 'Kundli' , they never had the tough competition (which is increasing day by day and probably our next generation would face it in multiples of 100), the peer pressure (social circle we possess is so career-oriented and we keep on fearing from loosing this race) . Process we have today is like buying a commodity and not choose the person you want to live with. We test each person on so many grounds (religion : even if the person is not loving it doesnt matter, physical defects : a small problem in health is taken as a defect and we forget something can happen to us anytime) and then we buy the best commodity . During this process, parents should also understand its the person who has to live the life and if we value our parents decision so much, they should also value our feelings equally and not get swayed on external factors.

Between 30-45

Between 30-45, person works hard to balance their professional life (for survival and for luckiest who know what career best suits them , try to excel in that arena) . On personal front, they lay grounds for their family (spouse and kids) and try to get them that comfort so they can survive and kids gear up for lessons of life so they can face their generation.

Post 45

Post 45, career takes a backseat. Now, an individual has to focus on Kids higher studies, make them excel in the rat race but balance it with their interests and allow them to pursue the dreams of their lives. Here an individual realises , even the life Kids owns is equally precious and he/she should be given a chance to live it to fullest.

Parallely, we support our Parents who gave us this precious birth and value them with guidance from them at every stage. But here we also need to understand as a parent, its equally important for any kid to pursue his/her dreams . So when he is lying on a deathbed , he doesnt blame parents for the decisions being imposed on him/her.

By 55

At 55, When kids step into the world's battefield, our religions and our vedas teach us, its time to start winding up love from married jeevan (Grihast jeevan) and gear up for meditation .We try to get the kids settle down in life with due respect to their feelings and dreams. Parallely, an indian individual start pursuing the path of "Ibadat" (remember God and meditation to thank him for giving us this precious life). People in India start attending community programs like Iskon , and align themselves to religious deeds (these days people pay visits to centers like Sai-Kripa and voluntarily impart knowledge to kids)

By 60

By 60, the person retires and lets the kids take over as a bread-earner for the family. Now, the individual wishes to spend time with his spouse (love of his life who supported him all through ) . Now, this is the time for Project Assesment.

Project Assessment

As in our professional lives, Project Assesment phase helps you to revisit if the expectations have been met . And if the expectations have been "Quality" delivered. We revisit all the dreams and with a smile we tell our kids, boss i aspired for this in my life and i succeeded in attaining it . No one remembers the pain , everyone just remembers the results. If the person lives the life of compromise, he /she will say it with a smile, i wish i could have done this and probably i would have had lived a better life. But the person who lived the life of compromises not pursuing his/her goals due to temporary circumstances then realises "Oops, the game is about to get over ... and i couldnt pursue my dreams / i wish i had done this in my career/ i wish i had married love of my life , probably at this age i would have been sitting out on a beach with her by my side".

Morale of the Project called "Life"

So all my Friends out there, please dont get bogged down with the hurdles life puts us through . Pursue your dreams, marry the love you want to (dont forget its few lucky ones who get one), value each relations (parents, siblings and equally your love) . Life is precious ... ask those you dont get 60 years and they land up choosing the dreams as per short timelines God gives them !! Many people dont even know if they have a choice and they land up being a figure of Sympathy than living the Project.

For Parents, i salute you for every bit of effort your put in to raise your kids, but support them in whatever they want to do in life , not everyone gets to live the dream project for 60 years.Remember !!