We Indians by virtue of our upbringing, lifestyle and many other such parameters are made habitual to living in limits. A child from kindergarden is told life is all about living in limits - ' kid, be careful you will brake the toy. I wont get you another one' , in school : 'child , if you fail in this rat race, you wont be able to make it to science which is one of the most hap things right now', in college : ' child, study for 15 hours, you wont make it to a good med/engg school' and the story just goes on and on. Result is a kid scared of failure keeps fighting for suvival and forgets about success , happiness, dreams . Only thing person is left with is dreams of parents to beat the rest and survive in bad competition. The same thing was projected in 3 idiots..
Something on lines of 3 idiots, i realised in My MBA program. After the tough admission process, day 1 of induction and the Dean says , "Guys pls dont run behind the grades, focus on learning". I found it weird thinking how will companies measure us at the time of placements, but by the time the placements came, i understood the depth of those words!!
Innovation and creativity comes when you love the job you do. Break all the rules, taste every thing in life, dont let off the dreams because of societal/peer pressure !! Life is too small to compromise... Just set the goals in front of you and do whatever you fear of the most. accepting and beating the fears is hardest for anyone but once you do that, nothing can make you feel low! but its also said, no point in getting promotion, on the day of break-up! So , first set the grounds no matter how tough the path be, never let pass the things/person you love the most! Because eventually you realize, things/person you love the most is the greatest motivation in anyone's life.
I believe success is 'when u r at 50 , u smile and say i have attained things i always wanted to in my life'.
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Total original thought....like it like it...:)
reflects the true facets of indian society and parenting. A person who does not have his own stand in life is a coward and a looser. It,s not about relations but more about being on the right or wrong side of life.
@ Anshul : thanks :)
Raman : Damn diplomatic.. i think those GD sessions we had in campus (Asma Club .. remember) had a DEEP impact.. :)
Go through this and you might like it -
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5_MqicxSo
The thing I like about this video is that in his last lecture he was able to list the dreams he had worked for and achieved. Society, family and peer pressure is a part of life and one should try to achieve his/her dreams without diappointing someone near one. As you said "There is no point in getting promotion on the day of your breakup". So, true and same applies here too. You need not compromise on anything to achieve your dreams but you should even try not to disappoint anyone (closed ones) on the way to acheive it. You can enjoy success when everybody is with you when you get it. You don't want to be alone when you reach the top hill.
Please continue writing. This is one of the way to express yourself and your feeling and also to remind you of something (dreams) when you get so busy with other tasks. I will wait for your next post.
@ udit....i think one should live for himself and herself also....And about indian parents i knw one thing they are made to emotionally blackmail you do dis do that..m nt against parents as unki bhe galti nahe mentality u knw indian mentality matters.......we live with fears..........fear of everything...fear of paying more when i go to shopping fear of being lonely(tabhie 99.9 percent population india mei shaadi karti hei).................i totally agree with deeds.....and u knw what is the fear our parents go through hai uski beti ke itne num uska beta engg bwahahaha...
abhe picture baki hei deeds....aek din aaega jaab sab mere photos dekhenge newspaper mei and merepe bhe case studies banenge............ :P
@Udit : I agree no point in reaching top hill all alone, but i believe u curve the road with ur attitude. And when u urself r confident abt the road u wish to take, near and dear ones (one who love u ) will always stand by urside. Thy might be disappointed temporarily but when u give them results,they will definitely support u. I have seen the struggle wid people in terms of their career , love life whtever (when parents didnt support thm but kids made them happy with results and their determination..).Even in love life, parents in Indian society wont appreciate it in first instance but its the will power and determination that puts things in perspective.
@geetu : I second u sis.. and am proud of u . U know i consider u a success story. I am happy u proved ur decision to pursue MBA even though family was against it at that point of time ..u made thm change their opinion wid ur results!! I am proud of u babe!! Atleast when u will be in old age, u will tell ur kids .. I achieved and did fight for things i always wanted in life...u will remember this fight not the failures and setbacks u came across :) :)
@Geetika: Pehli baat... wish you all the best.. I will wait for ur pic to pe in paper and people writing about your success...
Second thing, You need not even say *also* when you quote One shoudl live for himself or helself.... Infact "One should live for himeself/herself only".... The only thing what I wanna say is that sabko apni life ka hissa bana kar chalo... jahan tak bhi possible hoh... But yes, sucess never comes without pain so har ek ko saath lekar chalna bhi possible nahi hai..... I totally agree with you....
@Surabhi: aapne bikul thik kahan.... Infact yahi attitude chahiye hota hai to do something extra-ordinary....
There is a beautiful saying - never judge a person with the scars, as u never know how they got them. Few scars save our life. I myself can give example of my life.
Very well written Surabhi- Keep it up!!
I believe in one thing, that we should totally respect out elders and try to keep them happy and yes, we should do things or take steps in which everyone will be with us and support us. However, in some specific scenarios, we do need to realize and agree that there is a frequency mismatch between our elders and us, which leads to some situation where we stand on opp banks of the river.
As I mentioned above, we should try to convince them as much as we can and try to get thier blessings but at the end of the day we should always follow our heart and commitments that we have made in life and honor them.
This step might hurt the feelings or our elders but we need to act in a practical manner and do understand that its our life that we have to live and this life though given to us by our parents cannot be commanded or directed as they choose to do so.
We can try to make them understand for some period time, may be 1 year but post that we do need to take some steps to live our life happily and in peace we we choose to do so.
At the end, I personally believe each person on the face of the earth, has a right to live his life the way he chooses to do so. He/she will pay thier debts in due do to any wrong decisions they make but as individuals we will atleast have the satisfaction that we did do what we wanted to.
Take Care.
@Adi: I agree Adi . Atleast there is gona be a satisfaction that the state we will be in is gona be as per our choices .. :)
I think that it is important for us to respect our parents as they are the ones who gave us this life. However, our society still lives in 18th century and creates fuss on trivial matters without even realizing what makes their kids happy. Just because we respect them and care for them does not mean that we are like puppets. We are sensible and matured enough to take our own decisions and stand by them/face the consequences be it good or bad. There might be a situation where we will break their hearts and go against them but if we are right, there will be a day when they will realize that the children were right and they will re-unite. Sometimes it might not happen due to ego issues but as children we should keep trying and I am sure one day it will be Happy Family again..My verdict is that be a master of your life and show the world that no one can drive it better than you!
<3 it Nupur!!!
U know guys i was going thru this speech from Steve Jobs's Stanford Speech.. even he said dont live others life.. dont let noise from others opinion impact your heart or dreams .. Nice one .. i agree ..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UF8uR6Z6KLc&feature=related
I think what is more important is that a child / person should be able to make decisions for himself / herself. My parents always told me.. decide what you want to do in life, and strive to achieve it. We are with you wherever you need our support. That was enough. It is over protectiveness in any form, that cripples...
@Gagan: Totally agree wid u.. !
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